Having a strong and positive mindset doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time. In order for this mindset to be set in stone, you must first practice achieving it and keeping it there. A mindset is a habit. That’s what they say by a habitual way of thinking. We must make a strong and positive mindset a habit. Sounds easy right? It is. All you need to do is to let go of your past beliefs which aren’t serving you anymore.
Our foundation of our conceptions of the world and our thought patterns were formed during the ages of 0 to 7. These foundation years say a lot about who we are today as adults. We are all a product of those very first years and look at where we are today. The environment in which you were raised really matters. It matters a lot. But don’t worry. Don’t blame your parents for it. We just need to be aware that we can turn around our circumstances at any time.
Nobody has a perfect life. Life is made so that it moulds us. The process may take years. Just take a look at the Grand Canyon. Did you know that all those lines made against those walls were carved by millions of years of water passing through those channels. And now look at the final result. And after another million years, that too will change. Life is constantly moulding us into who we are meant to be.
Even if you think you’re doing badly in life, surely those struggles will not go to waste. Nothing is ever a waste in this life. Everything is an experience that we get to learn from that shapes us into who we are, whether we like it or not. Life can change in unimaginable ways and to get there, there’s always a process that we need to go through. We must understand that everything goes through the 4 phases of life in this Universe: Birth, Growth, Peak, and Death. Everything goes through these cycles. There is no escape.
First Things First
You must always begin where you are no matter what. Or how else would you get there? It magically doesn’t happen just like that. Everything takes work. Everything has to go through it’s own process. There is no rushing through it. Everything takes time. Let life mould you how it wants to mould you and take notice of who you are becoming. If you don’t like a certain aspect of yourself, mould yourself by changing some aspects of your circumstances. By realizing that you have the power to change, everything becomes possible.
Some things we can’t change and that’s alright. Just focus on the things you can change to better your own life. Never feel discouraged. Everybody has to start somewhere. Nobody got to the top just like that. Everybody had their struggles. That’s why when you hear successful people talking, they laugh back at their struggles and their past mistakes. You’re going to be like that so don’t worry.
Take a Hard Strong Look At Yourself
Just stand in front of the mirror for a little while and take a hard strong look at yourself. Do you like who you are becoming? If yes, that’s good. Start thinking of more ways that you can positively change your life. If you don’t like who you’re looking at in the mirror, it’s time to do something about it. Many people procrastinate and overthink. That disables them to do what they need to do to improve their lives. They are too afraid or ashamed because others are doing it way better than them. But what they must first understand is that if they don’t choose to change, they will forever be where they are.
If you want to be happy, choose to be happy. Clear away all your problems and surround yourself with desirable circumstances. Life is like that. If you have bad circumstances around you, list all those on a piece of paper. Your job is to cross off each of those undesirable circumstances and to change those into desirable ones. Life is that easy. Cross off the ones from your list and replace them with better ones.
Before we delve further, we must first learn about ourselves and to get to know why we started to think the way we currently do. It may have to do with confidence issues which weren’t resolved in early childhood. It could have been a traumatic event that staggered you though life that even affects you to this day. It could be anything. You need to find the root cause of it and come to terms with it. Our main characters and views of the world were formed during the ages of 0-7 years old.
Forget and Don’t Look Back
Sometimes people let one negative thing ruin their whole day. That one negative event sets a negative tone for the entire day. Have you ever had days like this? I had when I was in my 20s until I trained myself to think in terms of the day as a whole. There are ups and downs everyday but life is how you handle them. The better you get at handling your life, the more easier it will get. If one negative thing happens, don’t let it ruin the 10 good things that happened during that day.
When you start thinking negatively, catch yourself doing it. By being aware that you are thinking negatively, you are in a perfect position to rewrite your subconscious programming. What just happened that made you think negatively? Why did you feel that way? Since when did you start feeling that way? Get to know yourself intimately and honestly. Forget your ego. Forget your pride. Take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and understand the true reasons why. Accept that it happened, adjust and move on.
In order to have this kind of mindset, we must learn to let go and move on with our lives. When a situation in our lives has already occurred, it is already done. There is no going back, you cannot change it, it’s done. Do not dwell and just move on. Let bygones be bygones. Animals are good at this. When a zebra is grazing and gets chased by a lion and escapes,15 minutes later the same zebra can be seen grazing again. They do not remain paranoid of the lion when the lion isn’t there. When the lion isn’t there, they are able to return to normal. Animals are good at living in the present moment. They never let their past situations or future preconceptions stifle them. When a situation has ended, they let go, and move on.
On the other hand, humans are way too smart in a bad way. Once a negative thing happens, they cannot forget about it. They keep on thinking about it over and over and that is when it starts to wreck havoc in their lives. When a situation has ended, don’t dwell over it. Don’t put it on repeat like a broken record. Move on and live in the present. The future is coming and many things are coming so pay attention to that. Pay attention to what’s coming ahead. It’s the same as for driving. You cannot drive forwards if you’re always looking backwards at the rear view mirror. You have to look forwards to get to where you are going. It’s the same thing with life.
When something bad happens and you need to stay focused, to keep on track, use affirmations. Affirmations are powerful. You don’t even need to say the words “I AM”. All you need to do is to repeat certain traits that you want of yourself. So if you feel weak, you say “Strong”. If you feel sad, you say “Happy”. Affirmations may not work right away but they do have some effect on the subconscious mind.
Whenever a tough situation would occur, I would repeat in my head the types of qualities that were needed to overcome that situation. For instance, if I needed courage I would constantly be saying inside my head “Courage”. If I needed to relax, I would repeat the word “Relax” in my head. If you think about it, we are subconsciously programming ourselves all the time by thinking the way we are. In order to change that programming, you need to get out of that mind-loop that you’re in. Sometimes you need to roll up your sleeves and tell your own mind that enough is enough, I’m going to program you (as in your own mind) the way I want to program you.
By taking control of how you want to think by using affirmations, your thoughts and habits will change bit by bit. A strong and positive mindset doesn’t happen overnight. It takes years and years of conquering tough situations, conquering them with ease. It’s not easy but it can be done. In my 20s I was the most negative person in the world. Now that I’m in my 30s, I know how to handle life because life has put me through a lot. After having been through the worst, I can truly say that your happiness and well-being all rests with your mindset and how you handle life.
If you have the right mindset, you can overcome anything and everything. Life just becomes easier. A majority of people get stuck in the negative mindset but they can instantly change that by catching themselves in the act. The key is to program yourself to be the person that you want to be.
In My Opinion: Stay Away from All Media
Do you know monkey see monkey do? In Asia, we have these collection of figurines of 3 monkeys. One is covering it’s eyes. One is covering it’s ears. And the other is covering it’s mouth. See no evil, hear no evil, then do no evil. The elites who run this world know this too but they use this against us. Just think: Why is there so much violence, sex, drugs, psychopathic behaviours, and negative stuff on TV? Why are they openly showering us with content that is devolving the human species?
And we have been programmed since we were little kids by watching their cartoons. If you have kids, take a look at what they are watching. I have a son and in a cartoon they are already showing cleavage in children’s cartoons, especially Disney ones. Just imagine what else they are exposing our kids to. Mind you, I’m going a little off topic but I am just letting you know that everything that you are exposing yourself to everyday is impacting the well-being of your mental health.
Mainstream music and TV shows subconsciously programs you. When you are exposed to these things, you are being hypnotized in a way, letting in dangerous subliminal messages. Sounds emanated from these broadcasts is frequency programming. Do you know what frequency you’re being fed? Through current technology, they can target the frequency to go to certain parts of your mind. The owners of these media can literally control you by exposing you to their content. If they want you to get angry or agitated, to get depressed, to get anxiety, or to get sad, they can do that. Stay away from the garbage they expose to you in the media. All of your favourite songs are sprinkled with subconscious messages as well.
Have a Main Objectives for the Day
Have a main objective of the day no matter what. I set my main objective of the day to be productive and to be happy. Whatever life throws at me during the day doesn’t bother me at night. I always end my day on a high note. I always do what I set out to accomplish. If I can’t do all of them I at least get some done, you feel me. By having an objective to your day in like getting things done, it sets the tone for the entire day. You day becomes mission oriented so no matter what life throws at you, you simply go through it. You will accomplish all those things that you set out to do because once you start accomplishing those things, you will feel that much better. It’s a healthy addiction I would say.
Even though you feel like shit, if you accomplish what needs to get done, you will automatically feel better after the whole day is over and done with. Many people don’t get what needs to get done because one bad thing happened to them in the morning that took away their entire ability to get done what needed to get done that day. That’s why these people are living behind because they don’t allow themselves to get ahead in life. Life is all about positioning yourself. Always position yourself for a better tomorrow.
People who live right and are happy always get stuff done that needs to get done. They clear obstacles out of their way and that’s how they progress in life. They show up no matter what and accomplish what needs to get done. See life as being very similar to that of reading a book. In order to finish reading a book we must read and flip through all the pages. Successful and happy people are continuously reading and flipping through the pages. Unsuccessful people are too scared to flip through the pages. Fear and uncertainty step in their way. If they could flip to the next page they could see their destiny.
Again, life is about progress. If you’re not growing, expanding, or moving forward with your life you are dying. To live means to grow. Just take a look at the plants. You are strong enough and you will get through it. You know this quote: Everything is temporary: Emotions, Thoughts, People, and Scenery. Do not become attached, just flow with it. Just flow with it and program yourself the way you want to be programmed and control your mindset. Life will mould you in unimaginable ways and it’s all for your own good.